Wedding Planning 101 - How to Design a Wedding that Suits Your Personality

How to design your wedding

How to design a wedding that’s totally you

Does the thought of a wedding theme make you cringe? Having a theme to your wedding doesn’t have to be cheesy, you can make it your own and use it as a helpful tool when picking out your wedding decor.

This is part three of my Wedding Planning 101 series - if you haven’t already, make sure you’ve checked out how to set your budget and where to start first.

Once you’ve learned how to be a budgeting queen, you’re ready to pick your theme. Either watch my nifty video below, or follow along and read the highlights. Happy Planning!


You probably wouldn’t want to plan a winter wonderland wedding in June, so it’s best to get these things decided first, so you can plan productively.

These are some important things to consider before you can start to think about your wedding theme:

  • Where do you want to get married? In the countryside, in the city? A destination wedding?

  • What’s your budget?

  • What kind of venue would you like?

  • What’s your timeframe?

  • What season would you like it to be?

  • How many guests do you imagine being there?

All of these things affect the theme that’s likely to work best for your wedding, so once these are answered, you should start to see your vision and desired theme come to life.

wedding theme inspiration

Lucy Long Photography


Although it can sound slightly judgemental at first thought, looking at other people’s weddings you’ve been to is a great start when thinking about your own. Everyone has different tastes when it comes to decor, but this is definitely a good way to see for yourself, in person, what you think works and what you think you’d have done differently.

To do this you should:

  • Think about all the weddings you’ve been to and what you liked (and perhaps even more importantly, disliked) about each one.

  • Have a read of some real wedding stories online and in magazines. Pay attention to the full story and not just the pictures. What is it about the vibe of that particular wedding that you resonate with?

Once you’ve done this, think about your favourite elements you have noted down from both sections and see if there’s any common ground. Are they all outside? Do they all have holographic accents? Were they all small and intimate weddings? Note down into your free guide any ideas or concepts that you see appearing again and again.

how to pick your wedding theme

Rebecca Emily Photography

Visual inspiration gathering

My favourite part of this whole process is next, visual inspiration gathering. This step sounds just as fun as it is, look around for things that inspire you, regardless of price or practicality and just go wild!

If you’re struggling for places to gather your inspiration I suggest:

  • Pinterest (the most obvious choice). For this particular step I recommend making a “secret” board and going on a pinning spree. I suggest sticking with a 10 minute maximum on this, just so you don’t get overwhelmed. Don’t just stick to weddings either, anything goes here, as long as something about the image captures your imagination.

  • Books and Magazines - looking in real life printed media can be a nice break from your computer screen.

  • Look in your own house and wardrobe, are there any colours and textures that you go back to again and again? This can be a really great hack to getting to know your tastes as a couple.

  • Go window shopping - what colours are you drawn to time and time again? You can even visit DIY stores, fabric shops and places like IKEA (my personal happy place) for inspiration. This is also a great way to make sure your wedding is following the trends, should that be something that takes your fancy.

how to make a mood board

How to make a mood board tutorial

Make a mood board

This process can be a little tricky, especially if you find decision making difficult like me. The aim is to go through all your material that you gathered in the last step and pick only your very very favourite pieces. I’d recommend having between 10 and 20 pieces in total, although there’s leeway, the more specific you can be at this stage, the better.

Once you’ve chosen your final pieces, note down what they have in common and start to put together your mood board. Some of my tips for making a great mood board are:

  • Take it off of Pinterest and onto real paper. I recommend A3 size or bigger to really get your imagination going.

  • If you don’t want to cut up your treasured wedding magazines, photocopy/scan the bits you want to use. This means you can always donate them to someone else after the big day so they are not wasted.

  • Look in unexpected places. Paint chips, wallpaper samples, fabric scraps, anything that inspires you, pop it on there. Different textures really help a mood board communicate atmosphere.

how to choose your wedding keywords

Jason Williams Photography

Choose your wedding keywords

Your wedding keywords will help you a huge amount while you plan the big day. These are the words that you can refer back to when people ask what your wedding is going to be like. The more thoughtful and selective you are with your wedding keywords the more they will help you to find ideas, decorations, stationery and even the perfect suppliers for your wedding!

To find your wedding keywords I’d suggest you:

  • Set a timer for 5 minutes, look at your mood board and write down as many words as you can to describe what you see. Eg. Holographic, mustard yellow and millennial pink

  • Once the time limit is up, look through your list and choose the three words that resonate with you most in terms of your dream wedding. If you find choosing just three really hard, work backwards and cross out the ones that you don’t want first.

  • PRO TIP: when you think you have your three words, type them into search on Pinterest with the word wedding (eg. Holographic, mustard yellow, millennial pink wedding). If what comes up looks like your dream wedding then you are on the right track! If not, go back to your list and try again.

wedding colour pallet inspiration

If you’ve made it to the end of these steps, you should now have the whole wedding theme package: a mood board, a colour pallet and the right keywords to help you on your journey in planning your dream wedding. Don’t forget to sign up for your free 5 steps to an extraordinary wedding guide below, and for bonus points, I’d love to hear what your three keywords are! Let me know in the comments or over on Instagram :) I can’t wait to hear about your wedding themes.